Reality of a teenager in the present day- along with all the perks (Social Media, numerous entertainment channels, Globalization) still remains a challenge not just for the youth but also for the parents. More awareness has made us all question every aspect of parenting and infused a desperate urge to understand and remedy every little mood-swings the teenagers have.
Why is he behaving like this?
Is he okay?
Did he fail that math test?
Is he/she going through the pre-puberty period?
Our improving and vulnerable world with so much of chaos, choices, careers, crimes, possibilities has truly resulted into a generation of broken dreams due to so much more stress.
The life of a teenager is better when it comes to education, liberal society, no more rote-learning, so many channels of entertainment throwing boredom right out of the window, no more hitting children by hand, ruler or a book (Ah! I am not too proud of my childhood misbehavior are their achy results), however their years of innocence have been curtailed as pornography becomes widely available and the culture is becoming more and more sexualised. Also terrorism stalks the world and the planet is over-heating which might lead to a gigantic death scene though I might be already resting in peace till then.
These hormonal changes can make them feel at the top of the world at one moment and depressed and under-the-ground the next. That is the like the worst roller-coaster ride.
2- Confusion-Confusion- At one moment they want you to think of them as responsible adults who can take their own life decisions and at other they still want to be your little immature child who can demand things without much of a thought.
3- Overwhelming fear– Comon! Lets face it- Playing with happy train, blocks, doctor doctor and watching Curious George and Sid the science guy can’t really prepare children for accepting terrorism, sexual harassment that our world faces. Once they enter teen and start learning about the harsh reality and no-an-happy-ending, many go down-rail feeling overwhelmed.
4- Need to have ideal parents- The first time I consciously saw my parents fight, I thought I will put myself up for adoption or run away from the house. I wanted my parents to never fight, never argue or far from reality, never say anything bad to each other and be like a antelope couple. Accepting their humanly flawed characteristics only made it difficult to adjust with my unreasonable mood swings.
5- boys/ girls drama- You ask any adult who’re single and looking to get mingled and they will tell you how stressful the whole phase of chasing is.
They like someone who likes someone else. They like someone who is weird. They like someone who doesn’t even look at them. They like someone who is really famous and mean. Even writing about it makes me gloat that my teenage is over!!
6- Face the demon Publicly and Privately- Without judging anything about yourself or the world, there is an age where we thrive and enjoy life to the fullest. (7-11 approximately) But once they gain your conscience, there is no choice to face these deficiency personally first. They cannot run away from it. Stressful as it already sounds, they have to also accept these flaws in front of people. Now that is a mind banger.
I remember wearing such tall heels being a teenager- when I had to suddenly face my flaw of being short. As silly as it sounds now, I used to have horrible pain in my feet and still I didn’t stop wearing those heels and by high I mean at-least 5 inch. So you can imagine!!
7- Peer Pressure- Personally, I chose my career on the basis of my, “Where I will have more friends”.
Today, I see so many students around me doing things like buying an I pad, I Watch, Fancy clothes, attend gathering, smoking, drinking even when they despise it just under the influence of peer pressure.
Going against their own wishes and values is a no-option thing in their mind.
8- Lack of clarity with Facing Hypocrisy- Be Honest, Have Integrity, Be kind, Respect the right- You teach all these values while the children are young and suddenly they see parents breaking each and every value mentioned here under various circumstances. Children who’re used to white and black world are suddenly expected to deal with gray on their own.
Now if that doesn’t get them mood swingy and bizarre, What will??
9- Dealing with the hurt- No matter the reason for their hurt- Be it getting a mark less in their class-test, or a banter with their best friend for a stupid boy. The feeling is foreign for them.
Be it anything that is causing these crazy mood swings. You can always take the road that leads you towards their heart and make your connection stronger.
5- Support them- Be an extra leg behind them. Even if they can’t see it, when they need it, they should be able to fall back.