During my visit to Ahmedabad last year, I met some self serving friends from another land- far far away from mine. They played a game which looked absolutely baseless to me in the start that later forced me to reflect and?
Here I am reflecting!!
Each time any of them says “I, me or mine”, the doer shall do ten push-ups for it-(whenever and wherever they are).
See? Sounds silly right?
Due to their almost gutty commitment, I saw them do push-up in the middle of the road, play field, home, terrace and almost everywhere.
While I had my entertainment in watching them, I thought of them as species with the selfish gene.
(Oh yeah, humans judge, so did I, move on now!!)
I was about to test the game on myself and needless to say I was going to hit a rock, really really hard.
Even after spending relentless past days curbing my selfishness, in no more than minutes, I was at a penalty of 50 pushups. If you ask me, this is the first time I witnessed the moments of my narcissistic, “I”.
Contemplating now, it’s time for you to have your entertainment. I did finish my 50 push-ups in an ice-cream parlour with people woo-ing and Hoo-ing. Or rather slogged myself to the last one.
If you are going to tell me, your world doesn’t revolve around your own self, I’m going to call you a “Big Fat Liar”.
Don’t groan about the literal meaning now. I called myself that as well upon realizing my not so true selfless ratio of 8 in 10 time.
Far, Far from it, in actuality.
But, Who likes to be called selfish? The word in itself sounds ditesting!!
Atleast I didn’t!
Since many years, philosophers have had an argument about the word “selfishness” and human being either inheritly selfish or selfless?
They say it’s not possible to be completely selfless and I pretty much agree to it. They also say, people many a times act selfless as it is the right code of conduct and is rewarded well. Although another side to those rewards is instilling more selfishness into people. (In another post)
I’m still figuring my sure shot hypothesis to it so I won’t guarantee some proof, but expressing my internal inkling is possible.
Here is that! (Emphasising on “want”)
1- I want to help everyone who knocks my door, not necessary in terms of money but in terms of anything in my power.
2- I want to give love, care and understanding in my relations without having lot of expectations.
3- Buying gifts for others buy me better joy than shopping for myself.
4- Cooking food for my whole family is more satisfactory than cooking it for myself.
5- Understanding someone’s upbringing and circumstances rather than bickering about them is more peaceful.
6- Sharing the most valued thing to me gives me an insecurity at first but alot of Joy later.
7- Being polite rather than hyperactive in situations heals me.
8- Being responsible for actions that are not completly my fault gives me a feeling of strength.
9- Using “I” with an awareness feels more involved in my living.
Whether these things come inherently or because of my circumstances, upbringing is still a question. But these feelings are genuine on the current level.
One can further argue, the same feelings feed our ego. I will choose to accept their arguments.
Yes, it does feed the ego still my inclination is towards taking pride in being selfless than being deaf to your own selfless voice inside.
Let me ask you!
When did you read an article about how we need to be more self giving towards poverty, global warming or education?
Was it yesterday?
It can also be today?!
What’s going unnoticed here is being less selfish(wont use the word selfless) in the initial layer of our lives first. With people that we love and the actions we initiate on daily basis.
Sadly, we don’t have an “harpic” to flush the unwanted down fast!
It’s easier to go down the hill than up it, but the view is much better at that top. – Henry Ward Beecher.
Shall we ascend then?