What do you answer when someone asks you this twisted question, “Are you happy?”
If you ask me, I will instantly say, Yes.
Being inclusive of another way, “How you doing?” and the answer from my mouth again would be “Great”.
And most of you at different setups might answer the same.
Consider this statistics and the whole world is happy!!
Instead of being happy now, most of us are betting on being happy later!
And then we have those movies which solve a dramatic issue between the protagonist couple and end with a notion of “Happily ever after”.
Such movies served my wrong notion of relationships for quite sometime. Certainly when you finally be in one, you realise that “Happily ever after” in only in a bubble which bursts if not in days, in several months.
Recently a family friend of mine is going through her quarter life crises and depression of a messy divorce. The solution one of my aunts almost instantly had was she should get married again fast which will solve each and everything in her life and further making her life suppositely “Happily ever After”.
Accepting her vision is flawed like mine in the past without getting into a debate was not easy! Let’s just say that!
So is this wrong notion implied to only )relationships? Digging deeper into the same “Happily ever after (something)”, I came to a self proclaimed conclusion that it is fooling so many of my ambitious millennial buddies who think once they achieve “blank”, life will be “Happily ever after”.
Happiness wouldn’t have been the controversy of our generation, if it was the case.
Is it getting difficult to relate out there?
Let me help!
“Happily ever after”
- the college is over.
- I get a job and start earning.
- I earn so and so amount.
- I get married or find my soul mate.
- I have two cute children.
- I take a vacation to Hawaii.
- I buy a house.
- I buy a car.
- I pay all my debt.
- I find my calling.
Good that it’s clearer now.
In my opinion it only gets worse once you achieved your “blank”!
Let’s answer that after this story.
- An uncle of mine has been convinced with an idea that he needs to buy a new house since 5-7 years. He has been working his pants off to make this happily ever after come true for him. Last year he finally bought an house only to realize his children have gone out of country to study. His wife dispises him for not being there for her in the past years.
- The house being only a huge empty hallway is now rented and he has shifted back to his cozy house with his wife.
Not saying you have to live in a 1 bedroom flat with 10 people forever. (Taking care of those devil’s advocates.)
Once the goal has been achieved, that’s when the spam unfolds. Now you have to also deal with the hard truth that you have been betting on the wrong notion and you lost your time doing it.
For the techtermies, there is something called hedonic treadmill which is our inability to correctly judge our future happiness or sorrow. (be it for a situation or a big condo). Those of you, who can easily afford to buy anything should be a few inch more careful.
No circumstances to blame results more betting and loosing.
Just an head’s up!!
So, Are you waiting to be happy after getting into the space colony?
Best of luck!!
For me, there is “Happily ever now” (excluding those heart wrenching experiences) or “Happily ever chasing”.
FYI- I hate chasing!?!!